Episode 36

Why Letting Go of People-Pleasing Is the Boldest Thing You’ll Ever Do

Published on: 12th June, 2025

What if being liked was never the same as being safe? In this raw and reflective episode of The S.O.F.T. Method™ Podcast, DeAndra explores what it really means to release the need for approval and finally choose yourself, without guilt.

She opens up about her own journey with people-pleasing, the emotional cost of always over-functioning, and how healing her nervous system helped her reclaim her voice, energy, and peace. If you've ever found yourself shrinking to be accepted, this conversation is your invitation to soften, not sacrifice.


✨ In This Episode, We Explore:

  • Why your nervous system confuses approval with safety
  • The emotional burnout and identity loss that come from chronic people-pleasing
  • Four signs you're still performing for validation
  • What it really means to say “no” and still be a kind, good person
  • How to start practicing authenticity—even when it feels risky
  • The power of emotional safety, sacred boundaries, and self-advocacy

🧠 Journal Prompt:

Where in your life are you still saying “yes” when your soul is whispering “no”?


💬 Listener Love Assignment:

This week, honor one small boundary, even if it feels uncomfortable.


Then DM DeAndra @deandrajalisa and share what you chose.


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About the Podcast

The DeAndra Jalisa Podcast
Welcome to The DeAndra Jalisa Podcast—the place for creatives who are ready to stop playing small and start getting paid for what they know. From messy beginnings to building luxe, structured businesses, DeAndra shares the behind-the-scenes of entrepreneurship, clarity breakthroughs, and the systems that make it all flow. Each episode blends real talk, strategy, and soul-led guidance to help you package your skills, launch with ease, and step fully into your Soft CEO era.

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DeAndra Crismon


DeAndra Jalisa Crismon is the founder of Party Shop Avenue. A bespoke balloon design company located in Los Angeles, California. DeAndra has been in the event industry for almost 10 years. She was a wedding planner and event designer who wanted to create something unique for the industry.

Which gave birth to Party Shop Avenue in 2017, she started posting her beautiful creations and her designs started to spread the internet like wildfire.

DeAndra has been able to work with some notable brands and influencers throughout her career. Clients like, Guess, Boohoo, Fabletics, Netflix, Fashion Nova, Mastros Franchise, Ispy, Colourpop, Sivan Ayla, Jessi Malay, Shayla Mitchell, Draymond Green, and many more. DeAndra had one of the biggest jobs of her career back in 2018 when she was flown out to New York to showcase her designs with Ipsy for Ispy Creator Day. Not to mention her designs were featured on Good Morning America the same week.

Now DeAndra is still persevering in the industry but is now mentoring aspiring creatives on how to grow successful creative businesses.